Comments on: Contact Angela Shelton http://angelashelton.com Fri, 21 Oct 2011 20:18:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: 276050 http://angelashelton.com/contact/comment-page-1#comment-971 276050 Tue, 12 Oct 2010 00:26:04 +0000 http://angelashelton.com/?page_id=16#comment-971 I was molested between the ages of 5 and 7, your movie helped me verify my feelings even if my family wont, I still dont see why people think when you reach a certin age, my case 50 that you should not be troubled by it anymore, even though I have had several suicide atttempts. I was molested between the ages of 5 and 7, your movie helped me verify my feelings even if my family wont, I still dont see why people think when you reach a certin age, my case 50 that you should not be troubled by it anymore, even though I have had several suicide atttempts.

]]> By: DianneMarkee http://angelashelton.com/contact/comment-page-1#comment-940 DianneMarkee Sat, 28 Aug 2010 03:32:24 +0000 http://angelashelton.com/?page_id=16#comment-940 BTW...ty to whomever put the smoking thing a ma jig here...I'm looking for a hypnotist...an addiction. BTW…ty to whomever put the smoking thing a ma jig here…I'm looking for a hypnotist…an addiction.

]]> By: DianneMarkee http://angelashelton.com/contact/comment-page-1#comment-941 DianneMarkee Sat, 28 Aug 2010 03:27:18 +0000 http://angelashelton.com/?page_id=16#comment-941 My family "knows". My family has always denied it. So, I don't have "them". But then, due to the close relationship I had with my Mom, they were always jealous. They hated me simply because of this to begin with. I was the "hero" of the family, made them look "good" getting good grades, etc. while all the time, I was being beaten at home by "DAD", and having him stare at me, and setting me up, "grooming" me for the big days, when he would crucify me, as I was too shy to even date a boy, by feeling me up, and eventually, by the whole sexual act. I still have flashbacks. I was molested at 14, by a man where I volunteered. "DAD" called me a "whore". He wanted me for himself. He pulled the money away from nursing school, as I finally did the normal thing, and at 19, I had sex. I was raped by DAD. Afterwards, I was raped at knifepoint by a stranger. I was also acquantance raped. So, if you I cannot support your decision to never tell your family. The title of my blog, is something, (I'm making my life into helping survivors, as well, have already gone into human services.), but the title of my blog is BREAKTHESILENCE....I'm not that techie, but I'm trying to get it to fall down the page(the title), as it makes the point, which is necessary. YOU REMAIN THE VICTIM AS LONG AS YOU KEEP THE SECRET. The perpetrator WANTS this from us. I won't say it wasn't rough, while my father was alive, at all. He's tried, and now he even lives through my sister, the ringleader, who's countless times, tried to treat me bad enough., that's I'd kill myself. Not saying I never thought about it. I did. But I'll be damned, if I'll give my father, even in his absence, that kind of power of me. He stole what he got from me...I never gave him anything. So, afterwards, I was completely unable to give any allegiance to him, with my silence. I immediately sought medical attention, asking for an abortion pill, which was not yet on the market in this country, but the DR.l knew what I was saying, and gave me something to bring my period on. The police practically begged me to have him locked up. I asked my uncle, then lieutenant, to "keep it on record." The reason for this, was simple. I personally don't feel the way predators are treated will make them any better, beaten in jail, cast off by society. Initially, sure they need to know that it's wrong. My father knew this, and I went to live with a friend afterwards. He knew, what he did was wrong. I kept my eye on him, when he remarried, however. My half-sister was mentally retarded. I heard her ask one day if he would dress her. My step mother still hates me to this day, because I called DMR in this state on him, and on she. She was into my father for the money. And willing to sacrifice her daughter for that ends, as well. He'd been dressing her. More than inappropriate at age 23. Much more than inappropriate. Knowing that the step mom knew but wouldn't do anything, I had to report. Clearly she was either in denial, or simply didn't care. Denial was my best guess. He was a sociopath, and as they go, they are very charming, and exceedingly good liars, in the beginning. They cannot keep it up forever, so those whom they live with, eventually see. We must all break the silence. I may be an affiliate shortly, but I'm my own advocate and an advocate for women world-wide. What about the women in the congo? If we cannot come through our own stuff, and deal with our feelings, and those of the family, how will we ever raise up, and help the women over there. It's like a disease. Men have gotten away with victimizing women, for centuries. And, if you ask me...most girls who are victims of sexual abuse, are abused by a family member first. There is also another situation, where they are forced into teenage prostitution, or trafficked. But, we must all hold hands...take our hand, get a therapist first. Also, I know one thing about myself. It's been in God's time that all of this has been revealed to me. Truthfully, at 26, I could not remember all that had happened. I still cannot, as it was times when I was younger, and there is a block there. I only deal with it, when I'm forced to. Hon, take all of our hands, and we'll love you through it. Only then, can we feel the joy. I won't lie...the pain is real. The fear is outdated though. The only treatment for all of this is to break the silence. If you saw it happening to another little girl, would you tell her to obey her abuser, and bottle it up inside? No, and your family are not the ones you perhaps should discuss it with first. A professional, and watch out, make sure they fit YOUR style, that you are in complete confidence, will help you, as this cannot be dealt with in one session, one day, or even a FEW. It is an ongoing process. In truth? I was afraid, so afraid I was shaking on my way to the doctors. I was shaking in the police station. I was even shaking in the counselor's office. I had to get another therapist, as I had a male, in the late 70's, who actually didn't believe me. Man, I pounded on his desk so hard,"you don't?" I said. And with that..I hit the desk with my hand..and asked him if he was nuts. But he was simply insensitive. He was wrong for me, and I really did not want him as my therapist after this. I've a wonderful man now. He's well versed in trauma, and recovery. I'm in another 12 step program as well. It makes me healthy. However, I grab as much joy out of life now, as is possible, as too much of my life has been spent grieving the losses, and the trauma, of when I was younger. So, I'd missed much joy and love. I don't have lots of time left, so I want it to be happy time. Perhaps you are not my age...which is excellent! It means you have lots more time to heal. I do also, but I try and keep grieving to a minimum and fill my life with joyful things! I enjoy people very much. THIS was not always true, I must say, as I was obeying the rules I learned in a very sick household. They were in THIS order:<br>1. DO NOT TALK<br>2. DO NOT TRUST<br>3. DO NOT FEEL<br>I have to, on a daily basis, try and BREAK those rules...and don't you notice, that the first one has to do with SILENCE? They set these rules, so they could continue getting away with screwing their children! End of story. WE MUST BREAK ALL THE RULES, in order to be healthy.<br>All my love, Sarah, and welcome...know that every angel, has been through similar to what you have, and loves you in a very special way.(((hugs)))<br>Dianne Markee My family “knows”. My family has always denied it. So, I don't have “them”. But then, due to the close relationship I had with my Mom, they were always jealous. They hated me simply because of this to begin with. I was the “hero” of the family, made them look “good” getting good grades, etc. while all the time, I was being beaten at home by “DAD”, and having him stare at me, and setting me up, “grooming” me for the big days, when he would crucify me, as I was too shy to even date a boy, by feeling me up, and eventually, by the whole sexual act. I still have flashbacks. I was molested at 14, by a man where I volunteered. “DAD” called me a “whore”. He wanted me for himself. He pulled the money away from nursing school, as I finally did the normal thing, and at 19, I had sex. I was raped by DAD. Afterwards, I was raped at knifepoint by a stranger. I was also acquantance raped. So, if you I cannot support your decision to never tell your family. The title of my blog, is something, (I'm making my life into helping survivors, as well, have already gone into human services.), but the title of my blog is BREAKTHESILENCE….I'm not that techie, but I'm trying to get it to fall down the page(the title), as it makes the point, which is necessary. YOU REMAIN THE VICTIM AS LONG AS YOU KEEP THE SECRET. The perpetrator WANTS this from us. I won't say it wasn't rough, while my father was alive, at all. He's tried, and now he even lives through my sister, the ringleader, who's countless times, tried to treat me bad enough., that's I'd kill myself. Not saying I never thought about it. I did. But I'll be damned, if I'll give my father, even in his absence, that kind of power of me. He stole what he got from me…I never gave him anything. So, afterwards, I was completely unable to give any allegiance to him, with my silence. I immediately sought medical attention, asking for an abortion pill, which was not yet on the market in this country, but the DR.l knew what I was saying, and gave me something to bring my period on. The police practically begged me to have him locked up. I asked my uncle, then lieutenant, to “keep it on record.” The reason for this, was simple. I personally don't feel the way predators are treated will make them any better, beaten in jail, cast off by society. Initially, sure they need to know that it's wrong. My father knew this, and I went to live with a friend afterwards. He knew, what he did was wrong. I kept my eye on him, when he remarried, however. My half-sister was mentally retarded. I heard her ask one day if he would dress her. My step mother still hates me to this day, because I called DMR in this state on him, and on she. She was into my father for the money. And willing to sacrifice her daughter for that ends, as well. He'd been dressing her. More than inappropriate at age 23. Much more than inappropriate. Knowing that the step mom knew but wouldn't do anything, I had to report. Clearly she was either in denial, or simply didn't care. Denial was my best guess. He was a sociopath, and as they go, they are very charming, and exceedingly good liars, in the beginning. They cannot keep it up forever, so those whom they live with, eventually see. We must all break the silence. I may be an affiliate shortly, but I'm my own advocate and an advocate for women world-wide. What about the women in the congo? If we cannot come through our own stuff, and deal with our feelings, and those of the family, how will we ever raise up, and help the women over there. It's like a disease. Men have gotten away with victimizing women, for centuries. And, if you ask me…most girls who are victims of sexual abuse, are abused by a family member first. There is also another situation, where they are forced into teenage prostitution, or trafficked. But, we must all hold hands…take our hand, get a therapist first. Also, I know one thing about myself. It's been in God's time that all of this has been revealed to me. Truthfully, at 26, I could not remember all that had happened. I still cannot, as it was times when I was younger, and there is a block there. I only deal with it, when I'm forced to. Hon, take all of our hands, and we'll love you through it. Only then, can we feel the joy. I won't lie…the pain is real. The fear is outdated though. The only treatment for all of this is to break the silence. If you saw it happening to another little girl, would you tell her to obey her abuser, and bottle it up inside? No, and your family are not the ones you perhaps should discuss it with first. A professional, and watch out, make sure they fit YOUR style, that you are in complete confidence, will help you, as this cannot be dealt with in one session, one day, or even a FEW. It is an ongoing process. In truth? I was afraid, so afraid I was shaking on my way to the doctors. I was shaking in the police station. I was even shaking in the counselor's office. I had to get another therapist, as I had a male, in the late 70's, who actually didn't believe me. Man, I pounded on his desk so hard,”you don't?” I said. And with that..I hit the desk with my hand..and asked him if he was nuts. But he was simply insensitive. He was wrong for me, and I really did not want him as my therapist after this. I've a wonderful man now. He's well versed in trauma, and recovery. I'm in another 12 step program as well. It makes me healthy. However, I grab as much joy out of life now, as is possible, as too much of my life has been spent grieving the losses, and the trauma, of when I was younger. So, I'd missed much joy and love. I don't have lots of time left, so I want it to be happy time. Perhaps you are not my age…which is excellent! It means you have lots more time to heal. I do also, but I try and keep grieving to a minimum and fill my life with joyful things! I enjoy people very much. THIS was not always true, I must say, as I was obeying the rules I learned in a very sick household. They were in THIS order:
1. DO NOT TALK
2. DO NOT TRUST
3. DO NOT FEEL
I have to, on a daily basis, try and BREAK those rules…and don't you notice, that the first one has to do with SILENCE? They set these rules, so they could continue getting away with screwing their children! End of story. WE MUST BREAK ALL THE RULES, in order to be healthy.
All my love, Sarah, and welcome…know that every angel, has been through similar to what you have, and loves you in a very special way.(((hugs)))
Dianne Markee

]]> By: sjohnb1956 http://angelashelton.com/contact/comment-page-1#comment-860 sjohnb1956 Tue, 10 Aug 2010 07:32:08 +0000 http://angelashelton.com/?page_id=16#comment-860 Angela,<br><br>It does say, "Blessed are you when they utter all manner of slander against you for my sake."<br><br>You are in good company. Especially Jesus, he won't hog the remote after dinner. Angela,

It does say, “Blessed are you when they utter all manner of slander against you for my sake.”

You are in good company. Especially Jesus, he won't hog the remote after dinner.

]]> By: sjohnb1956 http://angelashelton.com/contact/comment-page-1#comment-861 sjohnb1956 Tue, 10 Aug 2010 07:30:32 +0000 http://angelashelton.com/?page_id=16#comment-861 Dear Angela,<br><br>Courage!<br><br> . . . and chocolate, of course.<br><br>Steve Bosch Dear Angela,

Courage!

. . . and chocolate, of course.

Steve Bosch

]]> By: sjohnb1956 http://angelashelton.com/contact/comment-page-1#comment-830 sjohnb1956 Mon, 09 Aug 2010 23:32:08 +0000 http://angelashelton.com/?page_id=16#comment-830 Angela,<br><br>It does say, "Blessed are you when they utter all manner of slander against you for my sake."<br><br>You are in good company. Especially Jesus, he won't hog the remote after dinner. Angela,

It does say, “Blessed are you when they utter all manner of slander against you for my sake.”

You are in good company. Especially Jesus, he won't hog the remote after dinner.

]]> By: sjohnb1956 http://angelashelton.com/contact/comment-page-1#comment-831 sjohnb1956 Mon, 09 Aug 2010 23:30:32 +0000 http://angelashelton.com/?page_id=16#comment-831 Dear Angela,<br><br>Courage!<br><br> . . . and chocolate, of course.<br><br>Steve Bosch Dear Angela,

Courage!

. . . and chocolate, of course.

Steve Bosch

]]> By: ssing http://angelashelton.com/contact/comment-page-1#comment-800 ssing Sat, 12 Jun 2010 07:25:07 +0000 http://angelashelton.com/?page_id=16#comment-800 Just saw "Searching for.." You are the bomb. Thank you.<br><br>I am a 53 year old survivor. Will I ever not regret the parts of my life that that I lost to drug abuse, insane asylums and self loathing? I don't know that answer. What I do know is that God has redeemed my life from the hell that it was. I've been blessed with a wonderful family, I am a successful professional woman, and I AM worthy. <br><br><a href="http://susansspeil.blogspot.com/2008/09/this-morning-i-was-reading.html" rel="nofollow">http://susansspeil.blogspot.com/2008/09/this-mo...</a> Just saw “Searching for..” You are the bomb. Thank you.

I am a 53 year old survivor. Will I ever not regret the parts of my life that that I lost to drug abuse, insane asylums and self loathing? I don't know that answer. What I do know is that God has redeemed my life from the hell that it was. I've been blessed with a wonderful family, I am a successful professional woman, and I AM worthy.

http://susansspeil.blogspot.com/2008/09/this-mo…

]]> By: o2bcr8tive http://angelashelton.com/contact/comment-page-1#comment-775 o2bcr8tive Mon, 26 Apr 2010 13:47:42 +0000 http://angelashelton.com/?page_id=16#comment-775 Finished watching searching for Angela Shelton today. It helped me to feel that I was not some sort of freak. That there are other women, other people out there who struggle with the same things that I do. That I am not alone. I was glad that your step brother stepped forward when he did- glad he talked about it in your move - glad that your relationship with him is restored. Thank you for what you did- its like a drop into a pool of still water - the ripples go out and out. God bless you Angela. Finished watching searching for Angela Shelton today. It helped me to feel that I was not some sort of freak. That there are other women, other people out there who struggle with the same things that I do. That I am not alone. I was glad that your step brother stepped forward when he did- glad he talked about it in your move – glad that your relationship with him is restored. Thank you for what you did- its like a drop into a pool of still water – the ripples go out and out. God bless you Angela.

]]> By: Sarah http://angelashelton.com/contact/comment-page-1#comment-769 Sarah Tue, 06 Apr 2010 16:51:53 +0000 http://angelashelton.com/?page_id=16#comment-769 I am reading your book for the first time today. I was shown your documentary in a criminal justice class about two years back and I will never forget it. I have cried constantly while reading of all the Angela Sheltons' and their struggles and your own personal struggles. I am 22 years old and have only told 2 people in my life about my past abuse. My family does not know and will never know. I think the secrecy of it is my only way to deal with the pain but I so admire you and the other Angelas that were strong enough to come forward. You are an inspiration to every woman out there and though I'm sure you hear that so very often- it will always be true :) I am reading your book for the first time today. I was shown your documentary in a criminal justice class about two years back and I will never forget it. I have cried constantly while reading of all the Angela Sheltons' and their struggles and your own personal struggles. I am 22 years old and have only told 2 people in my life about my past abuse. My family does not know and will never know. I think the secrecy of it is my only way to deal with the pain but I so admire you and the other Angelas that were strong enough to come forward. You are an inspiration to every woman out there and though I'm sure you hear that so very often- it will always be true :)

]]> By: hannahsmommy http://angelashelton.com/contact/comment-page-1#comment-754 hannahsmommy Fri, 12 Mar 2010 18:00:59 +0000 http://angelashelton.com/?page_id=16#comment-754 Hi, <br><br> <br><br>I was watching some Youtube videos, and I saw one where Angela Shelton was thanking her social worker, and I was wondering if it was the same person who was Safe Side Superchick with John Walsh on a safety video for kids. <br><br> <br><br>If it is the same person, I want to say THANK YOU, you have made a difference in our lives. I live in Longview, Texas and our local library has Safe Side superchick videos for general safety and the internet. <br><br> <br><br>We try to rent your videos once a month....they are usually loaned out the rest of the time! <br><br> <br><br>My 5 year old daughter and 4 year old son want to know who our safe side adults are....they pretend to fall off the couch like safe side super chick....my daughter tries to laugh like her...they want a dog just like Safe side superchick has.....yes, angela you have made a positive impact in our young family's life. Yay Angela!! Hi,

I was watching some Youtube videos, and I saw one where Angela Shelton was thanking her social worker, and I was wondering if it was the same person who was Safe Side Superchick with John Walsh on a safety video for kids.

If it is the same person, I want to say THANK YOU, you have made a difference in our lives. I live in Longview, Texas and our local library has Safe Side superchick videos for general safety and the internet.

We try to rent your videos once a month….they are usually loaned out the rest of the time!

My 5 year old daughter and 4 year old son want to know who our safe side adults are….they pretend to fall off the couch like safe side super chick….my daughter tries to laugh like her…they want a dog just like Safe side superchick has…..yes, angela you have made a positive impact in our young family's life. Yay Angela!!

]]> By: oscie http://angelashelton.com/contact/comment-page-1#comment-747 oscie Fri, 05 Mar 2010 00:35:20 +0000 http://angelashelton.com/?page_id=16#comment-747 Angela,you rock girl.I have just started volunteering at THE WOMEN AGAINST RAPE CENTER,IN PENNSYLVANIA.We are in training and one of the movies we watched was searching for Angela shelton STANDING OVATION,Angela my story is like your a little verystory is different but brother and sister molested me and i was raped,so i can feel you pain,Your story had me laugh ,in tears and screaming,and standing at attention when you cut the shirt i was like she found her,Thank you this story really captured the group heart especially mine ,Please keep doing what your doing,we where so intrigued we watched all the way to the end of the credits and even seen when you farted,lol,lol,YOU ARE A AMAZING WOMWN Angela,you rock girl.I have just started volunteering at THE WOMEN AGAINST RAPE CENTER,IN PENNSYLVANIA.We are in training and one of the movies we watched was searching for Angela shelton STANDING OVATION,Angela my story is like your a little verystory is different but brother and sister molested me and i was raped,so i can feel you pain,Your story had me laugh ,in tears and screaming,and standing at attention when you cut the shirt i was like she found her,Thank you this story really captured the group heart especially mine ,Please keep doing what your doing,we where so intrigued we watched all the way to the end of the credits and even seen when you farted,lol,lol,YOU ARE A AMAZING WOMWN

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