After being on the road for a decade working on an independent film and now taking the leap into a new one, I have learned many valuable lessons. If you have taken the 30 day journey emails that created to go along with my sword theory and analogy, you’ll understand this even more. If you’re in the Army of Angels, you know what I’m talking about. Of course you don’t have to do either to get the message to get over yourself.
Be Committed to Your Mission
What’s your mission? On the last day of the 30 day journey I ask you to write a mission statement. What is your mission statement? What do you stand for, fight for, believe in or want to see happen in the world? It could be anything from being an example to others on how to eat more consciously, you could have an invention that could heal thousands of people or you could simply want to be nice to your fellow humans and spread joy daily. It could be anything, the important thing is that you have it. In order to have a mission, you have to do some soul searching. It’s not about what your partner, boss, ex-husband, parents, grandparents or whoever else told you that you should do – it’s about what your heart and soul say to you. Of course sometimes, your loved ones keep telling you to pick up that guitar and sing and you’re the one who’s not listening. Whatever it is, put all fears, doubts and worries aside and dream big when you think about your mission. It could be anything and you can have more than one mission in life. You can have a cause that you fight for like BACA does and you could have a mission to get your story out there.
Watch Your Language
Quit the bs language of fear, doubt or worry that creeps into your head. Stop it, quit it, end it right now. We’re done with that chapter. Moving on. I’m serious. If you still have those thoughts that come up to stop you, halt you, making you sink into worry or anxiety – go work on that workbook. You can download some free pages here to purge and replace those thoughts. The number one reason people succeed and fail is because of what they are saying to themselves in their head. So watch your language.
Watch Your Behavior
If you’re reacting to situations in your life in a way that is all too similar to old behavior from your past abuse, trauma or repeated patterns or if you are simply reacting to things – it’s time for an overhaul on your behavior. It’s time for the mature adult to heal the inner child. It’s time to stop the repeated cycles of immaturity, old tapes of lack and limitation and any examples that you’ve been living by that are not coming from a place of unity. It’s time to grow up. We are a community. We are in a new age. It’s time to move forward. We, like water, rise collectively and at the same level. There is a dramatic shift in consciousness happening and any old patterns that do not work anymore have got to go. That’s why I started the Survivor Manual so that those of you who have any lingering fear, panic, anxiety or trauma can get off the trauma train and onto the joy jet.
It is not in your best interest to stay in a repeated cycle of abuse. It is best for you and for all of those around you for you to make the shift into an entirely new paradigm of living a whole healed life. You don’t have to be a trauma survivor to get what I’m saying. You could have a family that is stuck in the murky waters of complaining, judgment, hatred and greed. It’s time to either change those conversations or stop talking. You can affect your family and those around you be being an example. If you alert them that you are no longer going to entertain lower vibrational conversations and you stand by your word by leaving when it shows up – they will begin to follow your lead. Watch your behavior. Like children mimic us, people around you are affected by your behavior. Not that we don’t all make mistakes. I fall on my face and sometimes my fanny, but I rise and I will continue to rise and I’m asking the same of you. (Army of Angels, this is a core message to you that everyone else gets to see)
Have Self-Discipline
Love Work & Work Love
Do you think a mission and a movement just pop up out of thin air? Even those that are divinely inspired still require the work to make whatever it is come to life. For those of you who want to move forward, start your business, write that book, get that play out there, be seen, heard and reveal whatever you want to reveal – it requires work. It is work learning new ways to thinking and behaving. It’s work learning new ways to communicate. It’s work getting on Twitter and learning how to be a part of the state of Now! The work is worth it and when you’re working from a centered loving place, it affects everything for the better. It makes hard work seem like play. The best example I can give to that is me learning the Avid and editing my documentary myself. That was so hard. But I was faced with no crew, no money and soon to be no house if I didn’t forge ahead into the fear of learning a new technical thing! OMG, Techno-trauma! (I teach a workshop on that) It was so hard much work learning to edit a movie but once I got past the fear and anger for having to do it myself, it was joyous and I ended up being very good at it. It was after I cut the movie myself that it won all the awards too! Bonus.
Have an Award Ceremony
Delegate
There are others who are smarter than you. It’s true. You don’t have to do everything yourself. You can pass off some of the work load – with love. I’ve had to learn this lesson hard since I’m one of those I’ll do everything myself people. Although I can do it myself and many of you can too, you are more useful doing certain things than others. It goes back to what is your mission, what is your goal, what are you doing as the U in unity. There’s still the nity-gritty and it doesn’t have to be all U. Others can do the nity while you are U. It works. Don’t be afraid of letting others in. Yes, you may have to fire people and I encourage honing that skill. You will have to manage people and that requires watching your language and your behavior and remembering the ultimate mission as well. If you’re working with those who are on the same wave link with you and your mission or who share your mission, then it’s much easier to delegate. There are those who love to do tech stuff. There are those who love to file!
Watch Your Status
Seriously, what are you putting out into the world? How do others view you and how do you want to be viewed? What’s your reputation and how are you changing it or enhancing it? Do you listen to feedback? I know a girl who has been told by practically everyone she has ever met that she needs to be quiet and listen once in awhile. Caveman from BACA puts it perfectly, you have two ears and one mouth so you need to listen twice as much as you speak. But this woman refuses to take notes from others and her business is hurting because of it. So- what is your status? If you’re putting out there that you are still a wounded bird in need of being saved, watch it. Show the world how you want to be seen. Share the inspiration and empowerment that you need – share it with yourself as well as everyone else. The oh woe is me no longer works. We all have woes. Haiti has woes. It’s time to quit the whining and move forward. If that seems harsh to you, go whine in your journal or to your therapist and watch what you’re putting in your status. Then watch what you’re saying to yourself in your head and about other people because the two are connected. Listen. We are in the state of Now. I have wondered many times if anyone is even reading this. Do people even pay attention to what you’re putting out there? Does it even matter? Yes it does. And again, I fall down too. I trip and fall over F words when I’m talking about children being raped. But with that, I want to send a jarring message. If you notice on my FB page, I don’t talk about my private love life. I do that for a reason. It’s not everyone’s business. I want my status focused on my biggest mission of the moment and sometimes I just want to make you laugh to spread a little giggle therapy.
Let Go of Control and Let Joy
Holding onto how you think it must be has got to go because guess what? It may be bigger and more amazing than you and your human brain even imagined it would be. So there. Let go of the fear of the unknown. We all want to control things and be right and know what the future holds just like babies need structure and a schedule. But we’re adults now and we are in a new time and we must have increased flexibility and openness. Just like I heard someone adamantly tell me that they did not believe that you could create real relationships over the Internet when in fact I’ve met some amazing Army of Angels that way who I bet I’ll know for the rest of my life. I offer this thought – the waves of opportunity, communication and community are increasing at such an accelerated rate that it’s like when the telephone was invented or the light bulb. Do you think they thought back then that they’d be able to see in the dark or talk to someone a thousand miles away? Now you can take a trip to the moon for 100 thousand dollars. And guess what again? You could actually make 100 thousand dollars and fly to the moon. You may not want to but you could. The new forms of openness may blow your mind. May it blow your mind open! I suggest that you let go of your fear, crankiness, control, and pessimistic attitudes and jump into joy. Joy seems like such an overly used word lately because it’s actually happening. I see far more joy in the streets than I do panic and anxiety – but that’s not what you see on the news. Maybe take a news break and follow the twitter stream instead. It’s in real time. @angelashelton
Time to get over yourself because U are a valuable part of the nity in your community. U are a bigger Light and more wonderful than you think you are, that’s my bet.
