I wrote about Mackenzie Phillips already – http://angelashelton.com/high-arrival-mackenzie-phillips and then I met her.  She is funny, smart, caring, sensitive and and very cool.  I look forward to being friends with her.  I love it when survivors come forward, speak out and against all odds thrive.  She is and angel in the Army of Angels.

I was having a meeting with my producer last night about the movie we’re working on, Hawk Dances.  During the meeting I was alerted about a comment on my FB page from Bud about Mackenzie being a liar. I no longer jump to attention when drama happens online. I roll my eyes and don’t let it disrupt my meeting, especially a meeting about the music for Hawk Dances.   Apparently Bud didn’t read my first post about Mackenzie.  This morning I got up and went to see what kind of boloni was posted.  Here is a snapshot of it.

Dear Bud,

Having become an expert in trauma and recovery I feel compeled to bitch slap you upside your head.  But instead let me explain a few things to you.  First of all most survivors cannot speak about their abuse at all until their perp (perpetrator, rapist, abuser, psycho) is deceased.  There is a lot of fear and numbness that surrounds the victim due to the manipulation of perpetrators.  They have a very distinct and heavy hold on their prey. Plus, when the perp is an upstanding person in society whether a celebrity in Mackenzie’s case or a politician, police chief, judge, doctor, lawyer, physicist or psychiatrist, the victim is kept even  more silent due to the fear of ruining the career of the perp and thus hurting the entire family.  Children protect their abusers.  Children want to believe they are loved so badly that they will protect their abuser because over 90% of the time, the perp is someone they know, love and trust.  In far too many cases, victims stay silent because they love their abuser. I know I love my dad and protected him greatly, even lying on the stand in order to protect him.  The dynamics between the perp and the prey are vast and complicated.  It is also set up by perps to make the victims look crazy.  Plus, victims are usually the ones who become drug addicts, self mutilators, “crazy”, and self destructive while the perps thrive and in many cases get rich on the child pornography they created of the victim.  Even you yourself said that she was a “drug fueld, delusional, selfish, needy, fried fraud.”   And I say you are buying into the groundwork laid out by perps and their networks.   There is also a tactic used by them of putting the children when they are 10-14 into mental institutions and getting them on meds so that when they do come forward to break the silence later in life, the family produces the medical file and says, “She’s always been crazy” or “he’s always been a bit off.”   It is one of the many perp tactics and you just fell for one.  “If anything went on, it was daddy who was raped” is what you say? No wonder juries give child rapists no time at all and so many victims go crazy with people like you having those kinds of uneducated opinions.

Another one of the tactics or MOs of perps is to abuse only one of the children in the family so that when that one child does come forward they are seen as a liar by the whole family.   There are times when they select more than one child but threaten death to each privately so that both children are silent.  Not until many years into their adult life (if they finally talk about it each other) do they find out that both of them were being abused.

To say that Mackenzie is just out to make money is ludicrous.  First of all, I hope she makes millions on her book.  Money will never take away the pain of being raped by your father.  Second of all, no amount of money is worth the pain of losing your whole family because you are trying to heal and help others.  Plus, like me, Mackenzie really loved her dad and wanted to protect him.  Now that he’s dead, it is time to come forward.  Child rape is an epidemic and the silence is deafening.  By her breaking the silence, she is going to get ridiculed.  It comes with the territory.   I have been accused by perps and enablers for making money on my story too and I laugh a big belly laugh at that one.  What I do is service work to help others heal.  I saw that drive in Mackenzie too when I looked into her eyes.  She, like me, came forward with her story and caught hell for it but the majority of the responses are thank you, thank you, thank you for speaking out for those who cannot speak.  Now, she is driven to help others by speaking out and she’s doing just that and I’m going to help her speak even louder, especially when I read posts like the one you made.

So in your ignorance, and I respectfully say that you are dumb when it comes to the facts about child sexual abuse and rape, you have posted bullcrap on my personal FB profile and I take offense to it.  But it starts a dialog and I thank you for that.  Mackenzie talked to me at lunch about how she is so saddened by her family coming out in public to defame her because not only does it hurt, but it discourages other victims from coming forward.  And I said, oh no, my friend, it lets those who have come forward and lost everything because of it know that they’re not crazy.   You’re just seeing the stories in the media. There are thousands and I mean thousands, millions actually, of other stories from people who have been victimized as children.  May they see what happens when survivors come forward and may it give them the information to be fully prepared for the fallout and may they all take that leap in order to protect more children.  You haven’t seen anything yet, just wait until more come forward. Wait until the perp networks start to get exposed.  Then you’re really going to be posting on my wall but it’s going to be an entirely different “OMG, I can’t believe it.”

You say that you only bring it up because you think that Mackenzie’s actions “demean and trivialize the real issues of incest and abuse within families and does a tremendous disservice to the healing process of those with a real story.”  I say you have no idea what you’re talking about.  She is doing a huge service to survivors by coming forward and taking the hit.  If you think she’s lying try hearing the stories of the children who are kept bound and gagged in the basement while the local police, judge, dentist, pediatrician and priest come over and rape and torture them for fun – together!  But that’s too wild a story, you just can’t believe that one. That’s just too far fetched like a celebrity raping kids, I mean, that’s just crazy.   Bud, it is crazy.  You even said “this is believable, but seems preposterous.”  Raping a child sounds preposterous but it happens every day. It’s happening right now at this very moment while you’re reading this.  A child is being raped right now.  Do you believe them?  What if I tell you the perp is a friend of yours, that guy who you think is so awesome?   Go ahead and call that child a liar but don’t say it to my face because you might get smacked.  I’ll protect that child because I know the truth.

I suggest you take the Stewards of Children training from Darkness to Light so you can see how to recognize child sexual abuse.

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