Last time I was in Asheville, NC I was proposed to on my first night here. This trip I was proposed to on the last night I was here. I see a pattern. 
The latter man was much more clever than the first. He presented me with a box that “had a ring to it,” he said. It was a little bell that was my “ring.” He wants to know what we’re going to name our children. He’s a very cool and very talented fellow so I’ll keep him anonymous, but I had to share that some proposals have a ring to them!
First of all I’m not looking to get married (that’s a lie, I’d probably do it again). Second of all, I wonder why I should get married when my gay friends cannot? I’d rather do a legal partnership for political sake. By the way, I’ve seen far more happy marriages among my gay friends than I’ve seen in straight couples – I’m just saying. Plus, I’ve been married already although I don’t claim it since I never had a ritual that I believed in. On those online dating profiles of “what lie have you ever told” it is “I do.”
Why not buy yourself a ring?
I did. Then I hawked it to refinish my floors. I got myself another one, although (fake) diamond and wedding ring set but when I wear them I actually get approached more. Don’t get me wrong, it’s nice to be flirted with and I certainly love men – although I’ve had a longer attraction to boys and wonder if there are any men. Odoctah says that men are boys and stop trying to find a man. I’m not trying, they keep showing up with rings!
According to the history of marriage – One nearly universal tradition is that of the engagement ring. This custom can be dated back to the ancient Romans. It is believed that the roundness of the ring represents eternity. Therefore, the wearing of wedding rings symbolizes a union that is to last forever. It was once thought that a vein or nerve ran directly from the “ring” finger of the left hand to the heart.
What about blood diamonds? What about those dying so that our ring fingers can hold heavy shiny rocks and compete with the other gals? Why not get a tattoo instead? That was why I thought the “ring” was a clever gift instead of a god-awful gold encased diamond cluster. I’d rather have a barn house and a baby blue ’56 T-Bird convertible with white interior.
Why get married?
According to Wikipedia: People marry for many reasons, including one or more of the following: legal, social, emotional, economical, spiritual, and religious. These might include arranged marriages, family obligations, the legal establishment of a nuclear family unit, the legal protection of children and public declaration of commitment.
I’m a hopeless romantic and a lover or love so I love the idea of marriage idealistically. In reality, I can buy my own land, I don’t have children, I don’t need a public declaration of commitment (we have Facebook for that) and I do not need matrimony to fulfill me emotionally.
I spent too much of my youth writing love letters to boys who didn’t even know I existed, my teens chasing after them, my twenties taking care of those who said they loved me and the beginning of my thirties untangling myself from those I’ve taken care of. But I still love men (and boys) and I may still get married one day but I think this video sums up a lot of what we hopeless romantics go through.
Marry Me
I’m very happy to say that I’m riding my bike!
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