I have witnessed so many women and girls being squashed by men and boys. There always seems to be conflict around the holidays too. I think the societal pressure to buy buy buy doesn’t help with the stress people are already under in relationships either. But there’s no excuse for squashing Princesses and Queens! Usually, it’s a beautiful girl being dimmed by a not so attractive guy. It’s amazing to watch from an outsider’s perspective. First of all, you’re wondering how in the world did that guy get that girl. Scratch your head. If you knew the history of her childhood, you’d probably understand it a lot better. She has the self-esteem of a peanut and feels lucky to have him. She doesn’t see what a queen she is and the guy knows it. It’s like they have a sixth sense about it. They can spot their prey like a lion stalks a gazelle. Of course these guys aren’t lions, they’re more like hyenas. He knows that when she wakes up, she’s going to see that he’s a toad so he keeps her light dimmed by using all kinds of tactics to blind her. He’d have to do a lot more soul searching, healing and self-realization work before he’d be able to be around amazing women, much less be in a relationship with one. I’ve seen men do this to women so many times and experienced it myself. I just saw it the other night in fact with a beautiful young girl. She was so lovely that it was hard to take your eyes off her, one of those model beauties who you want to photograph or draw. And she’s with a guy who calls her names, picks her apart, berates and belittles her and is an all around loser. When you see her and see him you scratch your head again. He uses the Pick Up Artist’s tactics too. He squashes. She shrinks. He’s got to do that in his mind because that’s the only way for him to have control over her. Otherwise there’s no way that he’d even get the number of a girl like that. He tells her that she’s ugly (big fat lie), that she’s stupid (maybe asleep at the moment, she is with him), she’ll never amount to anything (if she stays with him), that she’s flawed, fat and blemished (he is) and that he can’t take her anywhere (because other men would see her and how he treats her, bash his face in and steal his girl). It’s amazing to watch them both do this sad dance. You want to jerk out your megaphone and give them both a schooling but alas, you can’t always do that. You have to let people learn for themselves sometimes. Of course you can pull the beauty aside and help her see herself.
What if people worked on their own issues before getting into relationships and for sure before procreating? What if two whole humans had a relationship where they help each other succeed at their different life journeys?
What if all those Princesses and Queens woke up?
(photo by Hiking Artist!)